An email is what was sent. Grace is what was delivered.

Yesterday I shared with 40+ friends and family that I was transitioning to Jace. And today I wanted to share with you the outcome of that email.

After drinking a pot of coffee I realized that today was the day. Today I was going to tell them. Today I was going to send the email. I remember sitting down at my desk, staring at the email I had just written up along with the link to this blog post and watching as my hand hovered the mouse over the Send button. FEAR. DON’T DO IT. BAD IDEA. These voices reminded me of one of those old, crackling, flashing Las Vegas signs you see at the end of the strip (think: OLD TOWN Las Vegas). And they just kept flashing over and over again without end. I poured myself another cup of coffee.

I clicked the SAVE button instead.

10 minutes later I found the strength to hit the send button. And I hit it. And I immediately clicked on the sent link in Google to verify that it had actually been sent. And after doing so I felt an immediate surge of relief mixed with a euphoria I had never felt before. Because today I chose to be the authentic me. Today I sent the email.

Within less than 20 minutes the email responses began to pour in. So today, after reading through all of them, I wanted to share a few so that others on this same journey will know what is possible when you decide to hit that send button.

  1. So proud of you, and you of course you have my undying support.
  2. Dude, way cool! Go you! Also? I completely LOL’ed at Joni’s half of the post, notably not getting to have the lesbian wedding her father never wanted and having to buy separate writing utensils instead of two sets of Lady Bic for Her. *bwahaha* You found a keeper. As a friend of mine says, “Rock on, Crouton!” Couldn’t be happier for you. Go be authentic!
  3. Much love to you both on this big day. I’m proud of you Jace and Joni.
  4. Jace, I love you a ton and am excited for your journey. Thank you for including me. It may not be the easiest path to be on, but it will be the most rewarding. I can’t wait to see your facial hair and be jealous. Maybe you can do some crazy designs with it like Prince.
  5. You are awesome Jace!  While it may not be an easy road, I know that your journey will be successful, especially with the love and support of Joni by your side! Heck, just sending this out to your family and friends shows what “balls” you’ve always  had!!! LOL  (sorry, just had to get that zinger in there! :D)
  6. Thank you for sharing your journey/story.  I have loved watching you fall in love and get engaged to Joni – it makes me happy to see you happy!  I can’t say that this has caught me by surprise, as I have always [in the short time we knew each other] thought of you in a male context… it is just the vibe you sent out and I never thought too much about it.  I love you Jace…. I admire you for being true to you and so happy you found your person.
  7. Well done!
  8. Oh my goodness, I am so happy for you and so proud of you! You finally get to be the person you always have been on the inside. You are such an amazing human being, and I wish you so much love and happiness in your life!
  9. Jace, I LOVE YOU always and am so excited for you to start living your dreams!!! It takes so much courage to be yourself and to realize your full potential. This life is a wonderful gift and when you take the steps to be able to fully embrace it, it shows how much you appreciate it. You are strong, you are loving and you are my best friend. I will be here for you for all journeys in our futures!!! Xoxo
  10. I am so proud of you. Thank you so much for including me in this very personal journey. I love you and I wish you nothing but happiness.
  11. Jace… Thank you for sharing… You have my love and support . I nothin but love from you here. You encourage me on so many levels.
  12. So my love I just opened up your email. Haven’t had a chance to read it all the way through, but whatever you do, wherever you go, whatever your heart tells you in life, you are one of my dearest friends and I love you. I hope your next journey is exactly what you need it to be for you. You will always have my support and love and laughter whenever you need it. Sending you hugs!!!!
  13. Hi Jace, I am sending my love and support to you and Joni! I am so proud of you for all that makes you you. I am happy you have made the decision to live the most authentic you. I am so glad that you have such a wonderful woman supporting you through this journey. Please know you have all my support and love. If you need anything or just want to talk I am here for you. I love you.
  14. Hey Jace, want you to know I support your transition and am proud of you for the way you are taking this step. As a Christian I’m finding myself in the middle of a lot of questions about supporting transitioning people, thanks for spelling out how to support you so clearly. With love and support, One brother to another.
  15. Hi Jace! Sending love and hugs!!
  16. Jace! I just read your blog post. I adore you! Thanks for being your authentic self and for sharing your journey. You are one of my favorite humans. Love and hugs to you!
  17. I am so proud of you. Thank you so much for including me in this very personal journey. I love you and I wish you nothing but happiness.
  18. Hi Jace, I am so so so proud of you! The courage and personal strength this took none of us could even come close to. Congratulations on being true to your heart, loving yourself and most of all being honest. (i think maybe i should have sat on all of this before writing this email so i could word it better, but all i wanted to do was give you a hug and tell you how happy i am for you. so bare with my broken email). I wish you were closer still, i would have offered my Reiki services to help clear out any energy blocks, past / present emotional blocks in your transition. on your journey please just remember to listen to your body and your soul… you are the only one who knows YOU… thank you for including me on your journey, i truly feel honored to know you, see your change and know that you’ll always be the same amazing person no matter what. If you ever need anything please feel free to contact me.
  19. Dear Jace, What a delight!  Nothing – i mean nothing – is better than staying true to yourself.  Congratulations on taking a huge leap and opening the doors to the life that has been awaiting you =) For me, I think the even bigger shock I experienced was how crazy organized your blog post is.  Talk about covering all the bases!  Can you teach a Trans101 class please?  Because I think a lot of people would benefit from it.  #nopressure But in all seriousness, if anyone deserves the huge sigh of relief that comes with positive transformations, it is you.  Even though we are pretty much down to Facebook contact these days, just reading your posts reminds me of what it is to be kind, genuine, and vulnerable, and I know that it is always the real you on the page.  Your latest news is yet another inspiring feat in the world of Jace. Also, I completely hope you post photos if you take your friend’s advice about growing wild Prince facial hair.  Sorry, but that was just too funny ^_^ Anyway, I’m looking forward to reading more about your journey and I will support you every step of the way!

An email is what was sent. Grace is what was delivered.

3 thoughts on “An email is what was sent. Grace is what was delivered.

  1. Congratulations !! You know I will always stand behind you. At first I was worried, such a drastic measure for such a beautiful person , but then I realized that you will always be beautiful inside and out. I will be here for you both thru thick and thin. I love you both bunches 😘😘😘

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  2. Beautiful! I’m so happy for you! Even though I’ve only met you once, I could tell that you are a wonderful human being! I wish you nothing but happiness as you walk the path that is clearly yours to walk. I have nothing but respect and I wish you and Joni all the love and happiness that you two deserve! I can’t wait to get to know you better, Jace! Xoxo

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